I bet you still find it amazing that a man can be into you one minute and the next he has disappeared. Leaving you to ask and wonder ‘why he disappeared?’.
Evan Marc Katz was one of those guys, the type that just disappeared without a trace. Sometimes there could be no reason but he still had an overwhelming urge to get out of there and fast.
He spent some time trying to get to the bottom of it. Why did he feel the need to run?
Most of the time, rightly or wrongly, it is because he has perceived that she did something wrong or something he didn’t like. And really that something could have been anything, even something so insignificant that you didn’t even remember it but nonetheless he did and he didn’t like it.
These are some of the mistakes that you may have made without even realizing it.
Believing That What Attracts Him to You is the Same Thing You Find Attractive in Him
What are you looking for in a man? Someone who is successful, handsome, making a good income.
You may assume that’s what he is looking for a well!. Assumptions can lead you down the wrong path and that is certainly true when it comes to men.
While you’re maybe looking for a handsome, smart, successful man – he isn’t. He gets enough of that at work.
He is looking for someone who understands him; sometime he can show himself to; someone who he can trust; and someone feminine. He’s looking for what he can’t get from his friends or at the office.
Stepping into your most feminine energy is a wonderful way to show him that you’re not one of the boys. The only thing is, as you live so much in your masculine energy to achieve all the things you need to, you sometimes need some help to step into our feminine energy this might help you.
You’re Being Too Proactive
You may spend a lot of time thinking about whether a guy likes you or not. In reality though if a guy likes you, you’ll know. Guys are pretty transparent when it comes to love. I found this clue in nature.
I spent some time in Bali last year and I was trying to make a butterfly land on me. I would put my hand just in front of it urging it to jump on me. Each time I did, it got scared and flew away, much to my disappointment.
Then one day I just stood really still in the garden and then I felt something on the back of my leg. When I looked down there was the butterfly, it had landed on me and my heart soared. It was easy to see the irony then.
Who likes to be made to do something? Not me! I don’t think too many people would and certainly not this butterfly.
My thoughts then went to men. If you stand really still and he’s the right guy for you; and he’s into you; all you need to do is stand there with open arms and welcome him. If you take a step forward you might scare him, so just hold your ground and like the butterfly he will come to you.
You Worry Too Much About Getting Hurt Again
Sometimes without even thinking about it or realizing it you may close your heart off to love. You can get clues in your language “I don’t need a man” or “I don’t want to get married”. In a lot of cases this is code for “I am scared of getting hurt again”.
So you go into a new relationship with all the scars from old relationships and blame the new guy for the lot. Really all you’re doing is keeping him at a safe distance because you’re worried about getting hurt again.
The only thing is he doesn’t know that and he may think that you just aren’t into him. Or worse that you aren’t the type of person he wants to be in a relationship with. This strategy will serve if you don’t want to get hurt, but it also means that you’ll be unlikely to find love either.
Evan Marc Katz is a dating coach for smart successful women. He has helped so many women find love after years of painfully searching. Now that you understand why he disappeared you can go it alone and try to ‘make the butterfly land on you’ or you can get some help from an expert.
We get coaches or teachers for sport, school, business, why not love!