Why He Disappeared: The Truth Behind Why He Disappeared

I bet you still find it amazing that a man can be into you one minute and the next he has disappeared.  Leaving you to ask and wonder ‘why he disappeared?’.

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Why He Disappeared?

Evan Marc Katz was one of those guys, the type that just disappeared without a trace.  Sometimes there could be no reason but he still had an overwhelming urge to get out of there and fast.

He spent some time trying to get to the bottom of it.  Why did he feel the need to run?

Most of the time, rightly or wrongly, it is because he has perceived that she did something wrong or something he didn’t like.  And really that something could have been anything, even something so insignificant that you didn’t even remember it but nonetheless he did and he didn’t like it.

These are some of the mistakes that you may have made without even realizing it.

Mistake #1:

Believing That What Attracts Him to You is the Same Thing You Find Attractive in Him

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He Is Looking For A Feminine Woman

What are you looking for in a man? Someone who is successful, handsome, making a good income.

You may assume that’s what he is  looking for a well!.  Assumptions can lead you down the wrong path and that is certainly true when it comes to men.

While you’re maybe looking for a handsome, smart, successful man – he isn’t.  He gets enough of that at work.

He is looking for someone who understands him; sometime he can show himself to; someone who he can trust; and someone feminine.  He’s looking for what he can’t get from his friends or at the office.

Stepping into your most feminine energy is a wonderful way to show him that you’re not one of the boys.  The only thing is, as you live so much in your masculine energy to achieve all the things you need to, you sometimes need some help to step into our feminine energy this might help you.

Mistake #2:

You’re Being Too Proactive

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Stand Your Ground Arms Open And Ready

You may spend a lot of time thinking about whether a guy likes you or not.  In reality though if a guy likes you, you’ll know.  Guys are pretty transparent when it comes to love.  I found this clue in nature.

I spent some time in Bali last year and I was trying to make a butterfly land on me.  I would put my hand just in front of it urging it to jump on me.  Each time I did, it got scared and flew away, much to my disappointment.

Then one day I just stood really still in the garden and then I felt something on the back of my leg.  When I looked down there was the butterfly, it had landed on me and my heart soared.   It was easy to see the irony then.

Who likes to be made to do something? Not me! I don’t think too many people would and certainly not this butterfly.

My thoughts then went to men.  If you stand really still and he’s the right guy for you; and he’s into you; all you need to do is stand there with open arms and welcome him.  If you take a step forward you might scare him, so just hold your ground and like the butterfly he will come to you.

Mistake #3:

You Worry Too Much About Getting Hurt Again

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Don’t Worry About Getting Hurt Again

Sometimes without even thinking about it or realizing it you may close your heart off to love.  You can get clues in your language “I don’t need a man” or “I don’t want to get married”.  In a lot of cases this is code for “I am scared of getting hurt again”.

So you go into a new relationship with all the scars from old relationships and blame the new guy for the lot.  Really all you’re doing is keeping him at a safe distance because you’re worried about getting hurt again.

The only thing is he doesn’t know that and he may think that you just aren’t into him.  Or worse that you aren’t the type of person he wants to be in a relationship with.  This strategy will serve if you don’t want to get hurt, but it also means that you’ll be unlikely to find love either.

Evan Marc Katz is a dating coach for smart successful women.  He has helped so many women find love after years of painfully searching.  Now that you understand why he  disappeared you can go it alone and try to ‘make the butterfly land on you’ or you can get some help from an expert.

We get coaches or teachers for sport, school, business,  why not love!

Love Gayle


How To Be Successful Online Dating

There are so many positive stories about how to be successful on online dating.  Here are a couple of secrets from those who have found love online.  People who have found love online have two things in common Clarity and Belief.

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How To be Successful Online Dating – Clarity

Clarity is such an important aspect of online and offline dating.

Being authentic about who you are and what you are looking for in a partner, helps you to limit your options to people who match you on a number of levels.

What are your life goals and dreams?

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What Are Your Goals and Dreams?

Being clear about your life goals helps you match with someone who aligns to your expectation and outlook on life.

Your expectations will be visible in your personality so it will be a little hard to hide if you approach this from a place of honesty.

What type of person are you?

Are you a world changer; do you seek to inspire others; do you aspire in your career or perhaps travel plans. Finding someone who aligns to your view of the world will help you reach your goals by supporting you rather than running interference.

What do you stand for?

Understanding your values will help you find a partner whose vibration is similar to yours.  A relationship where you have to compromise your values and integrity is doomed to fail.  You will find it difficult to agree on what is important to you as a couple.

These types of relationships are also painful as you will feel that you can’t really be true to yourself.  So be sure on what your top 5 values are and seek a partner who aligns with them.

What are your relationship expectations?

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What Are Your Relationship Expectations

Have clarity around your relationship expectations and communicate these clearly in your online profile.  By being really clear about your relationship expectations will help you find a partner who is seeking something similar.

The children question is a big one and it is very personal to people, do you see marriage in your future.  Be clear and communicate these to any likely suitors.

Getting clear about your life goals, values and relationship expectations will enable you to write an online profile which really speaks to who you are.  Being clear and honest about who you are will attract someone who is looking for you.

Don’t worry about scaring people off, if they don’t align to your expectations of the world then don’t waste your time with the wrong people.

Trying online dating and have limiting beliefs about being able to meet someone really defeats the purpose.  Belief is one of the most important things in life.  It’s what gets us out of bed everyday.

So resolve your limiting beliefs that you may have and align with the possibility that your soul mate is waiting for you.  With clarity and believing it is possible you can find your soul mate, and be successful online dating.  It will be a great step forward in raising your vibration for love.

Become His Goddess: Embracing Your Inner Goddess To Become His Goddess

You want his world right, so become his goddess.  When you become his goddess from an authentic place within yourself, there is nothing in the world more irresistible to him and there is nothing that he wouldn’t do for you.

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Become His Goddess

So how do you become his goddess?  The answer lies in tapping into your power source, so make sure that you are in the best shape possible and take complete care of yourself inside and out.

It’s easy to go to the salon and look after your outside, but let’s tap into looking after yourself from the inside out.

Eat Well To Stay Healthy

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Embracing Your Inner Goddess

I am certainly guilty of having ‘chip and dip’ for dinner some night because I didn’t make time to do the grocery shopping.

Or maybe picking up some take out on the way home or having lunch at my desk at work.  To be honest generally when I did this I didn’t sleep all that well and I felt horrible and sluggish the next day.

Good nutrition is one of the most important ways to look after yourself from the inside out and rock your goddess.

But busy lives sometimes take over and prioritizing looking after ourselves doesn’t always make it to the top of the list.  Keeping ourselves well nourished is the key to a healthy body and your goddess will glow.  So when you plan your week make sure to add some shopping time – food shopping that is.

Embracing Your Inner Goddess

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Embracing Your Inner Goddess

Taking your goddess out for a walk or a dance, will get your goddess cells doing a happy dance.

Happy dancing cells is also a key to a healthy and happy life.  Not only will you glow on the instead but you will glow on the outside as well.

Yoga is also a wonderful way to get your cells dancing and jumping around for joy.

Take an hour to enjoy the benefits of a regular yoga practice.  Yoga has an amazing ability of bringing out your inner goddess as it has holistic benefits for your body, mind and soul.  It is a wonderful way to spend an hour.

Get Plenty Of Rest

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Become Your Own Goddess

Sleep has so many benefits to help you attain goddess peace and get rid of dark circles under your eyes.  Getting enough sleep will make sure that you feel your very best every single day.

Instead of dragging yourself out of a date you will show up as your best self and he will appreciate it as well.

Getting enough sleep also improves your concentration which really helps when you are out on a date.

Forgetting what he said will just give him the impression that you aren’t interested enough to pay attention to him and that won’t help you become his goddess.

Rock your inner goddess and embrace your feminine dating energy by making sure that you look and feel great inside and out.  Eat well, sleep well and get your body moving and you will be well on the way to not only feeling great but shining your light to become his goddess as well.  You will be on your way to raising your vibration and finding your soul mate.  That is a wonderful place to be.